Why I Choose To Be Single

Hey there – I am not a man hater, but I haven’t met a man who was worth not being single for, for 11 or 12 years. I used to be someone who was not okay with being single. My self worth was measured by my dating status. Didn’t matter what kind of a man he was, as long as I knew someone wanted me. That stayed with me for most of my life. It’s only been in the last couple of years that I’ve been happy with being single. I know now that something isn’t always better than nothing. Men still want me, but I don’t want anyone who isn’t going to make my life better. My life is pretty great. Why would I want to screw it up for someone who treats me less than what I deserve? I’ve only ever dated one person who treated me the way that I deserve and I let him go. Out of a sea of men and there’s only one who knows how to treat a lady right? I am sure that there are good men out there, but none of them have shown interest in meπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. Well except for the one that I let go. So now I realize that I have to love myself. I have to save my own heart. I have to be my own knight in shining armor. Here’s the thing – if I don’t love myself. If I don’t make sure that I am happy without a relationship. If I am not the best me that I can possibly be, how can I expect to find someone who is at their best? If I’m mediocre, I’ll attract someone the same or worse. I gotta work on me. I choose to be single because I NEVER want to get divorced again. I NEVER want to be cheated on, betrayed, or lied to again. People treat you how you treat yourself. If you treat yourself like you’re garbage, people will treat you like you’re garbage. You will attract men or women who want to use, abuse, and hurt you. But guess what? If you work on you. If you work on loving yourself and you DO love yourself. And you treat you like you LOVE you, you will find someone who loves you. Someone who not only SAYS that they love you, but they will show you with their actions, thoughts, and habits. I do love me. I’ve been showing myself that I love me. I am happy for the first time in my life. I am happy because I know that my happiness is entirely up to me and not up to whether I’m single or not. I LOVE being single. And I am grateful for this time that I have to make me the best me that I can be so that someday IF a man does come along who knows my worth and treats me accordingly, I will be ready for him to love me. And I will be ready to give him the love that he deserves too.

Published by thisdoitallmom

I am a single SAHM of five small children. My ultimate goal is to be able to stay with them always. I am passionate about; art, photography, children, crafting, single moming, music, and love.

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